As you discern as part of your problem, the relinquishment of judgment is the discharge of the whole spectrum of judgment (the beneficial through the destructive). Total forgiveness (the Atonement) is a State of mind which reflects Summary Divine Head. Accumulating a couple of passages from ACOL and presenting them https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCTleG6-484F7WHZD0hAjRRw